I live somewhere in the space between optimist and cynic. I’ve accumulated enough life experience to understand the rules by which society operates and still have sufficient hopefulness to really believe in our collective ability to change those rules if they aren’t working. The only thing that validates social norms at any given moment is the willingness of the majority to participate.

Think about this — amongst a whole host of other antiquated absurdities, spousal abuse was totally acceptable just a few decades ago. Of course patriarchy is still real and domestic abuse still happens today, but not with the same wink and “atta boy” nod that it once had. What changed? A critical mass of the population changed their way of thinking. Once this happened, laws, attitudes and social agendas soon followed. Today, most people abhor the idea of domestic abuse, and I am confident that one day society will feign similar contempt over the blatant racial injustices so prevalent today.

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Culture is constantly shifting, but never without the persistent nudge of courageous individuals who are bold enough to challenge the existing state of things. I am grateful for the Alicia Garzas, Jose Antonio Vargas, and Deray McKessons of the world. The movement requires work at every level.

Some people were raised to be socially conscious and others are just stepping into their awareness. Some have the fortitude to push from within established structures while others are best equipped to apply pressure from the outside. There are levels to this, but no matter where you fall on the activist spectrum, you have the capacity to effect change within your realm of influence.

If you feel that you are being nudged toward the work of social activism, here are a few things you can expect as you take your first baby steps down this path:

The wake-up call

1.You’re really REALLY bothered

The first indication that you may be on the path toward activism is a keen sensitivity to the injustices all around you. No one enjoys oppression, but some people are able to deal with it or ignore it. You’re not one of them. No matter how hard you try to adjust and accommodate the reality of pervasive injustice, you can’t seem to wrap your head around quietly accepting social inferiority as your birth right.

2. You’re tired

Keep your head down, focus on yourself and never, under any circumstances, mention race. You’ve been black your whole life, you know the rules. You understand that assimilation is your best chance at survival, but you’ve become increasingly weary of playing by these rules. You’re starting to realize that the game is rigged.

3. You’ve had enough

Enough is enough! The injustice is so flagrant, so in-your-face disrespectful, you have to do something. At this point, the inner torment of being passive has officially outweighed the social consequence of working toward change.

The backlash

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4. The social bullying

So, let me get this straight…I can mourn terrorist attacks in Paris and be outraged about the inhumane treatment of animals, but if I express any level of discomfort regarding matters of racial injustice, it’s a problem? This twisted logic is maddening and certifiably insane. Racism is real and the stiff societal consequences for demanding social justice is designed to intimidate you into inaction. Let no one convince you that advocating for justice is somehow wrong.

5. The opposition from within

The nature of oppression is so insidious that the oppressed are often its greatest defenders. Sometimes the most resistance will come from within. Whether or not everyone is in agreement with your activism, they will still enjoy the benefits of the progress for which you are pushing.

6. Internal conflict

You are going to go through periods of fatigue. The consequence of consciousness is real, but understand that whether you’re advocating, marching, mentoring or using your art, progress is being made.

Set your strategy

7. Collect data

You don’t need a case study to tell you what discrimination feels like, but institutions do. Trust your gut but gather your evidence.

8. Stick to the point

When it comes to presenting your case for change, be strategic in your approach. Don’t be swayed by non-related arguments or diversionary tactics. Stick to the issue at hand.

9. Maintain perspective

With so much of your time and energy focused on what’s wrong in the world, it can be easy to become overwhelmed and even depressed. The fact is that even with all the societal ills we’re faced with, 80 percent of the worlds population would gladly switch places with you. Be sure to set aside dedicated time to count your blessings and focus on all the good in your life.

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Although the concept of being woke and socially conscious is sexy at the moment, the actual work is far from glamorous. If you’re feeling compelled to take action, don’t be afraid to take baby steps and start where you are.

The transition into adulthood isn’t an easy one. Navigating relationships, managing workplace politics, hitting those milestones on schedule— don’t be fooled, no one knows what they’re doing. There will be all kinds of fumbles, blunders and awkward missteps along the way. If you’re constantly wondering to yourself, “Am I doing this right?” Welcome. This is just the place for you.

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