Our ancestors wore capes to hide their pain. Capes that masked their stories, trials, and tribulations.
We too wear capes.
We take on the burden of struggles related to socioeconomic factors, relationships and existing while being Black. Despite the mysticism of our superhero powers and our ability to persevere despite the atrocities America has shown us; we are still human. We have mental breakdowns. We fantasize about what life is like on the other side of misery. We patch over our scars with flimsy band-aids.
According to the Health and Human Services Office of Minority Health, African-Americans are 20 percent more likely to experience serious mental health problems than the general population including major depression, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), suicide (especially among young African-American men) and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Despite this statistic, only about one-quarter of African-Americans seek mental health care, compared to 40 percent of whites.
This statistic is a reflection of a larger problem. A reflection of the lack of accessible healthcare without stigma and discriminatory practices, as well as a community reliance on faith-based practices and spirituality. Because if God can’t heal us, then how can a therapist? We need to stop shaming each other for seeking mental health services, isolating others from our networks and cutting them out of our lives due to stigma. Let’s embrace and check on our brothers and sisters that are struggling despite attending church, coming up for all the altar calls and casting their burdens on Jesus.
The new year is the best time for resolutions, so let’s resolve to end the stigma of seeking help for mental health issues. Here are six tips for ensuring self-care in 2019:
Confide in Your Loved Ones and Friends
Sometimes, you just need a shoulder to cry on. Opening up to your loved ones and friends can take a burden off your chest and allow you the opportunity to put your problems in perspective. What might seem like a larger than life problem could actually be resolvable or at the least, something you can deal with. Still, your friends can only take you so far, which is why this next tip is also helpful.
Book a Chat with a Therapist
You’re not crazy for electing to see a therapist. Therapy in a controlled setting can help you express yourself without someone judging you or labeling you as a basket-case. If possible, seek a Black therapist. Having someone that looks like you will make you feel comfortable and more at peace with opening up about your problems. You might even find that they had similar issues and are able to guide you in an emotionally healthy way to tackle your issues head-on.
Join an Inclusive Community of Supporters
Let’s face it. There are additional stressors that come with being Black. Having a safe space to share your experiences and how you are feeling without judgment or persecution can be liberating.
Take Up a New Hobby You Enjoy
Sometimes doing something you love can be therapeutic. Finding a new hobby can help take your mind off your problems and even create long-lasting relationships in the process. A great site to connect with others of similar interests and passions is Meetup.
Change Your Scenery
Getting off the couch and being outdoors can do wonders for your mental health. You don’t have to take a long nature trail walk. You can walk around the block or take a stroll at your local park. The point is for you to get some fresh air to help clear your mental fog.
Remember, it’s Okay to Have Bad Days Sometimes
Life is a marathon and not a sprint. Even with employing all of these tips, you are still going to have days you feel down. It’s okay to not feel great all of the time. What’s not okay is to let yourself stay in that place. If you or a loved one you know is experiencing thoughts of self-harm, please contact the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. You are important and you matter.
Let’s ensure 2019 is a good year.
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