Let’s Address The Disrespectful Straight Men Acting Like Lesbians Just Need The Right D To Straighten Us Out

This is bigger than Kodak Black and Young M.A.

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| March 21 2019,

11:04 pm

The timeline has been in shambles over this drama between Young M.A and Kodak Black.

It all started when Kodak left a comment under a picture of Young M.A with Nicki Minaj expressing his attraction to the pair, according to Paper.

"Both Of Y'all a Get It,” he wrote in an Instagram comment.

He also rapped about his attraction to the “OOOUUU” rapper in his single “Pimpin Ain’t Easy.”

"I'm f**kin' Young M.A, long as she got a coochie,” he said.

To make matters worse, Kodak also used a slur in the song. “I be pullin' out straps on these f**k n***as/ I go Young M.A on these dumb bitches/ Like a dyke, man, you n***as can't fuck with me,” he rapped.

After months of harassment in her Instagram comments, Young M.A finally responded to the situation.

“Y'all keep talking about this Kodak situation. Y'all n***as is weird, bro." she said via Instagram Live. "What's wrong with y'all? Is y'all n***s alright? Come on, bro. Like obviously the n***as weird."

Sadly, instead of leaving her TF alone, Kodak doubled down on his creepiness.

"I'm talking 'bout, how you a girl but don't want your p***y penetrated?" he replied during his own Instagram Live session.

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Young M.A isn’t the only prominent queer woman to experience this behavior. Growing Up Hip-Hop Atlanta star Ayanna Fite told Rolling Out straight men still slide in her DMs despite her publicly coming out.

“Guys are always in my DM telling me about their muscles, their height and all their masculine characteristics and they have no idea that those things turn me off because I like women not men,” she said. “Those are characteristics that straight women like in men but they actually turn me off because I’m not straight.”

As a queer woman myself, I’ve heard some variation of this comment several times. Many cishet men cannot fathom the idea of a woman not wanting to have sex with a man. For them, inserting a penis into a vagina is the main course while other acts are the appetizer. When we explain there are some queer women who enjoy penetration or our attraction to masculine women, they suggest we try men to get the “real thing.”

The invalidation of our identities is a stressful inevitability for queer women. We’re treated as defective toys, who only need the right D battery to straighten us out. Many of us are open with our identities, but it doesn’t stop men from disrespecting our boundaries.

When I was still pretending to be straight, telling guys I had a boyfriend usually made them back off. They’d apologize or make some slick comment and be on their way. I miss those days because telling some dudes I’m only interested in women doesn’t deter them. They ask me why I’m not in to men, or if there’s a small chance they can take me out. One guy even approached me while I was with a girl I was dating and proposed a threesome. I’ve also been approached by guys while I was at Atlanta Pride or some other queer event. While these occurrences have been quite intimidating, I’ve been lucky to avoid being violated physically. There are men in this world who believe they can rape a woman straight and attempted to do so.

The invalidation of queerness extends beyond sex. Former woke bae Terry Crews was cancelled by many when he tweeted that children who grow up in lesbian two-parent households would be “malnourished” without the presence of a male figure. In reality, data shows children who grow up in same-sex households are just as emotionally stables as children of heterosexual parents, reports The Guardian.

Although this information is just one Google search away, the invalidating views of queer women still persist.

To be clear: We’re not defective. We’re not confused. We don’t need your dick to fix anything. We just want to live.

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