Twitter user James William posted a thread on the platform to commemorate his 27-year marriage to his wife Sheila, who died from multiple sclerosis on April 19, 2015.
He starts the Twitter thread by detailing how they met and how he was transfixed by his late wife’s beauty and intelligence.
We met when I was 19, she was 20 at Fisk University. She was on her SECOND engagement to a 30 year old bank VP who drove a Datsun 240Z. I was 6 months removed from food stamps and my bus pass just expired. When I first saw her, I literally fell off a fence. pic.twitter.com/WETXAYJZul
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That’s what having a 4.0 GPA, Delta Sigma Theta, Phi Beta Kappa with those 44DDD, 24, 40 dimensions will do to ya. She had to get a reduction up top because it was hard to breathe, but all of the other assets were intact. pic.twitter.com/vVJNpOmyy1
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James said that Sheila was his first in many ways, including his first true love and girlfriend. She was also highly accomplished, graduating magna cum laude from Harvard Law and going on to become a successful attorney.
James said he was so dedicated to her that he got a job as a copy editor at a law firm to proofread her briefs and deposit his checks in her account.
The one thing I have in common with Richard Pryor? I didn’t have sex as a legal teenager, either. So yeah, she was my first – first love, first real girlfriend, you name it. Graduated magna cum laude, Harvard Law, successful attorney and leader of an association. pic.twitter.com/gruWWhd3jS
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I was so in love with her as her boyfriend I got a SECOND job at night as a copyeditor at a law firm to proof her briefs. I sent the money from my second job direct deposit to her to a bank in Boston. She was one of 10 Black women who graduated. Nope not married yet. pic.twitter.com/JBXNLDDUmR
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She was the most profane, intelligent and confident person in my and most other people’s lives. She was a staunch advocate for her clients but knew how to party harder than most human beings. When she was out clubbing, I just stayed home. pic.twitter.com/3dAyr1Dni0
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They got married and had four children, including one who passed as an infant and one who has autism. The couple went on to live a happy life, but in 2006 Sheila was diagnosed with MS.
We married, had four children together (the first child died as an infant), one child has #autism, and we went through life together. In 2006, she started falling for strange reasons. After 6 months, MS was the diagnosis. This was her pregnant with our 4th. pic.twitter.com/14cq8XrHMY
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As the doctor told us when she was diagnosed, the best day we had with MS was yesterday. It only gets worse from here. Toward the end, her tremors were so bad, I finally learned how to do her hair, nails, make-up. I cariied her around the house b/c she didn’t want a stair lift.
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I did get a foley lift installed in the bedroom so I could bathe and moisturize her skin every day and made cleaning her up after using the bathroom – going to the toilet, washing her face, bathing her daily – easier. She had 24 hour nursing care.
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Like most people with chronic illnesses, she cycled in and out of Johns Hopkins – go in for a week or two, rehab center for 6 weeks, come home, things seemed better, then it got worse. Wash, rinse, repeat for five years. pic.twitter.com/wHY8jgZTQp
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James recalled Sheila’s last week of life and being admitted to Johns Hopkins Hospital because her vital signs “were just not good.” Within 15 minutes after arriving at the hospital, she went into cardiac arrest.
The last week of her life, she agreed to go to Johns Hopkins because her vitals were just not good. We weren’t there 15 minutes when she went into cardiac arrest. The doctor punched the big red button on the wall, put her on a gurney and we were all running down the hall.
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“James, what in the hell happened?” “Girl your heart stopped.” “Did I have a heart attack?” “No your heart stopped beating.”
She paused and reached out for my face.
“I’m so glad your face is the first one I see. If this ever happens again, just let me go. I hurt all over.” pic.twitter.com/WLrA0K342a
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The next day, she was having problems breathing. I asked for the nurse, who brought in a big old machine. Welp, she punched the big red button again. “Prepare the OR, she has four blood clots on her lungs.” I’m running down the hall again. pic.twitter.com/ZRvC74q4Jq
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At the OR, she reached back to me. “I need to talk to my husband.” “You have ten seconds.” “James, one of two things is gonna happen. Either I’m going to come out alive, and everything is going to be fine. Or, I won’t come out alive. And everything will be fine.” pic.twitter.com/8qzPxPQFGW
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Although grief-stricken by his wife’s state, James suggested they had previous conversations about their end-of-life wishes.
Mr. Williams, your wife’s internal organs are shutting down. There is no brain wave activity. She can stay like this for who knows how long, or you can decide to take her off the breathing device.
Fortunately, we’d talked about this since we first got married. #GetAWill pic.twitter.com/ZA4aNo379n
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He called his pastor and made one of the most challenging decisions a husband can make regarding his wife’s life.
They removed the tube separately, but I spent time with her before that happened. After the tube was removed, we all went down the room to let life happen.
I was in the bed, under the covers, with her, holding her as tight as I could. I didn’t believe this . . was really . . . pic.twitter.com/dzhMCLxYOa
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He said goodbye to Sheila, whispering in her ear as she transitioned.
Her breathing was shallower and shallower. My friends were singing gospel songs.
I whispered in her ear the song I made our song, the Temptations “You’re My Everything.”
“You surely must know magic girl, ’cause you changed my life.”
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“It was dull + ordinary, you made it sunny + bright.
I WAS BLESSED THE DAY I FOUND YOU. GONNA BUILD MY WHOLE WORLD AROUND YOU.
You’re everything good girl, + you’re all that matters to me. When my way was dark, and trouble was near, your love provided the light so I could see-
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“Mr. Williams? It’s over. Your wife has joined our ancestors.”
In her room I had our son’s West Point uniform, James’ Special Olympics trophy and a letter our daughter wrote her. I’m glad those were the last things she saw on earth. pic.twitter.com/NqZvwDVxMW
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As I walked from Johns Hopkins for the next phase of my life, my pastor pulled me aside.
“James, you never cheated, lied to, beat, or disgraced your wife, children or marriage. This is how a good marriage is supposed to end.”
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“You might not be listening now. I don’t know the pain you now feel. I do know this.
You fought the good fight.
You ran the race.
You kept the faith.
He pulled me around and held my face.
WELL DONE, MY GOOD AND FAITHFUL SERVANT.” pic.twitter.com/4LW29JZ02d
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FIN/
Thank you.Thank you for a wonderful 9,928 days, eight hours and 50 minutes of marriage.
Thank you for letting me know it’s OK to love again.
Rest in peace and power, Queen. pic.twitter.com/LCEU4DYDjF
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To James’ surprise, before her death, Sheila instructed her friends to help him find another wife.
She’s still looking out for a brother in heaven because she got her friends to get my new wife Patrice. They literally said “James, now Sheila told us if anything happened to her for us to find you a new wife because you can’t do it by yourself!”🥰
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James’ story demonstrates the gravity of the phrase “in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”