“…the vagina is not just a sex organ at all, but a powerful mediator of female confidence, creativity and the sense of the connections between things.” – Naomi Wolf
As a sacred sex educator and women’s wellness consultant, I tend to think a lot about how women perceive ourselves as sexual beings. I’m usually concerned with how we perceive sex as well as our bodies. It’s been my experience, based on my interaction with women via retreats and workshops, that women tend to not know much about our bodies and how they work. We have general knowledge of our sexual anatomy, but there is much more that we can benefit from learning.
Sex is an essential part to living a healthy life. Not only is sex great for the endocrine system (hormone network), but according to science, sex is also good for your overall sense of joy, peace, creativity and happiness. Dopamine, opioids and oxytocin are the “pleasure cocktail” of hormones released when good sex is in motion. If while reading this you’re thinking about how your sexual experiences have left you feeling less than happy and creative, you could possibly be asexual or the victim of less than eventful sex and/or sexual trauma. I want to validate your feelings and your experiences, as my goal is never to diminish any of our experiences, but to provide awareness so that we might access all the goodness encoded in our bodies.
A woman’s body was made to receive and experience pleasure. Take, for example, the fact that the clitoris’s only function is just that — pleasure.
Apparently, scientists have been conducting some really great research and discovering strong results that support the teachings of ancient philosophy such as Kemetic and Hindu Tantra. The brain and vagina are connected, a “single system” in fact, as described by author and journalist, Naomi Wolf. She states this in her book, Vagina: A new Biography.
“Female sexual pleasure, rightly understood, is not just about sexuality, or just about pleasure. It serves, also, as a medium of female self-knowledge and hopefulness; female creativity and courage; female focus and initiative; female bliss and transcendence; and as medium of a sensibility that feels very much like freedom. To understand the vagina properly is to realize that it is not only coextensive with the female brain, but is also, essentially, part of the female soul.”
This is a pretty huge statement. When a woman experiences healthy sex coupled with feelings of safety and security, she’s inclined to feel and be better because of it. The key here is that women must feel safe. There must be a sense of connection and security so that we may trance out into an altered state of consciousness, allowing us the experience of what mystics call cosmic bliss. Sex is meant to be a beautiful experience of ecstasy and sharing, of healing and creativity.
What this means is we must get to know ourselves and continuously stay open to discovering more. We must be committed to partnering with only those who can help create the highest quality connections for the highest pleasurable experiences.
Pleasure is both a gift and a birthright. Get you some!
