She Ain't No Wifey: 7 Ways To Know You're Enabling Misogynoir And How To Get Yourself In Check
"Beautiful Black woman, I bet that b***h look better red." –Lil Wayne
November 08, 2018 at 3:22 am
Back in 2010, Dr. Moya Bailey along with artist, social critic and author Trudy coined the term “misogynoir” to identify an issue that has plagued Black women for years. They define misogynoir as "particular," as it has to do "with the ways that anti-Blackness and misogyny combine to malign Black women in our world." Basically, the term places a simple name on the complexity that is misogyny exclusively geared toward Black women.
The intersectionality that Black women who identify as both a person of color and as female experience is often defined through the eyes of men, who quantify their essence based on stereotypical tropes. "Misogynoir" was coined as a means to address many of these tropes, which tend to arise and exist within the negative conversations that surround Black women.
Toxic masculinity drives misogynoir, and this combination has led to the murders of Black women, flagrant stereotyping and an overall attempt to silence women’s voices. But “misogynoir” is also a word that makes people uncomfortable. By definition, it holds others accountable for actions that exceed the classification of standard misogyny. It addresses the subtle statements that make us side-eye rappers, and question the intentions of white allies who claim to support the Black community.
So how does this term address Black men, as well as the Black women who enable this sort of behavior? Some people believe that Black women are more likely to go to bat for Black men than Black men are willing to do for Black women. We see this in daily casual conversations about sex, success and gender roles.
What if you’re a Black man who thinks you’re a Black feminist ally? Do your actions align with your words, or are you just falsifying your support as a means to pull girls?
It’s time to check your own levels of misogynoir. If you have any of the following symptoms mentioned in this list, refer to your local Black feminist practitioners: Alice Walker, Bell Hooks, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Audre Lorde and Tarana Burke.