Am I doing this right? Why you should always have the audacity to be yourself
June 26, 2016 at 2:00 am
Although there is a place for structure and order, things get hazy when the desire to measure up becomes an end unto itself and our lives become so driven by the need for approval that we forget who we are. I've seen people rush down the aisle, choose ill-fitting careers and live an entire lie in an effort to fit in. The pressure and effort and energy required to keep up is exhausting. I'm not innocent in this regard, so I speak from experience when I say that this kind of duplicity is simply not sustainable.
The truth is, comparison is futile.No one on the face of the earth has your mix of DNA. Your talents, fingerprints, your quirky idiosyncrasies —none of it is coincidental. Your experience is wholly, entirely and uniquely yours. From this perspective, the expectation that everyone should operate within the same cookie cutter template is completely illogical. We cheat ourselves when we don't allow ourselves to be ourselves
Authenticity is a courageous act, but when you think about it, what choice do you have?
The transition into adulthood isn’t an easy one. Navigating relationships, managing workplace politics, hitting those milestones on schedule— don’t be fooled, no one knows what they’re doing. There will be all kinds of fumbles, blunders and awkward missteps along the way. If you’re constantly wondering to yourself, “Am I doing this right?” This is just the place for you.
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