The owner of Dallas restaurant TRUE Kitchen + Kocktails is at the center of a firestorm after a video that was released on Sunday shows him berating patrons for twerking.
A Twitter video shows owner Kevin Kelley loudly cursing and yelling at a table of women for twerking while Megan Thee Stallion's hit "Body" blasted through the speakers.
Restaurant SUICIDE on camera. pic.twitter.com/9Bkr6q3lyF
— DJ Green Villain (@DJGreenVillain) November 30, 2020
"I invested a lot of money into buying this building and developing this concept so Black people can have somewhere nice to go to. Somewhere where we can feel good about ourselves as a culture," Kelley said before yelling at his DJ to cut the loud dance music and cursing at women sitting in the restaurant.
"All this twerking and s**t, take it to Prime, take it to Pink. Don't bring it here because we're a restaurant. Beyond that, 75% of our customers are ladies and I want men to show respect for how they carry themselves. How can I tell the men to respect [you] and you guys are twerking on the glass here? If you want to do it, get the f**k out of my restaurant. Don't do it again. If you don't like it, get out because I don't need your money. I need to provide something for my people," he added during the tirade.
Beyond the obvious questions of why large groups of people are packed into an indoor restaurant during a pandemic that is disproportionately killing Black people and why Kelley stood on his soapbox without a mask, debate raged online about his decision to bash his own customers and criticize their dancing as the DJ played dance music.
Hundreds of posts bashed Kelley for disrespecting Black women and deploying the worst kind of respectability politics, others in the comments defended the restaurant owner while trying to claim that Black people would not dance at other bars or restaurants in the same way.
He did not, under any circumstances, have to make it a scolding about twerking in general and respectability to a room full of mostly Black women. Period. It was misogynistic as fuck and y’all know it. But that’s what y’all think is “necessary” when talking to us.
— Bath & Bella Works ???????????? (@brownandbella) November 30, 2020
Many women took issue with how Kelley spoke about Black women and about twerking, particularly at an establishment specifically playing music people would generally twerk to.
He ain’t have to make it about blackness or none of that shit. A simple “hey everyone, pls refrain from dancing on the furniture and keep the floor clear.” Simple as fuck. He chose to take it to “how ima tell men to respect you if you don’t respect yourselves!” Pls.
— Bath & Bella Works ???????????? (@brownandbella) November 30, 2020
Some who were at the restaurant said they had been waiting for the food for hours, and because of the slow service, the restaurant was giving people a lot of alcohol while they waited. A person who was sitting next to the group that got scolded said they all had been waiting for their food for nearly three hours.
Lmao they in True Kitchen comments talking about waiting over an hour for food, fuck u thought would happen? pic.twitter.com/TcCl2snFFs
— BANK$ (@itsLIVinsky) November 30, 2020
Others questioned what the restaurant thought would happen when they started playing loud dance music.
If you dont want me to shake my ass dont play ass shaking music!!!
— Misses LACE Mamas (@jiggyjayy2) November 30, 2020
also discussing “women respecting themselves” in reference to twerking, is always rooted in some misogynistic bullshit.
— the horror hottie ???? (@___d0minique) November 30, 2020
not all the sophistirachets and boughettos forming a black excellence voltron to make sure everybody understands it’s a time and place to perform lmaooo
— CeciATL (@CeciATL) November 30, 2020
Internalized racism says …..i need to play trap songs and hip hop to attract black patrons, but police their dress and behavior to avoid it bein TOO black and ghetto.
— BIGnatius MACintosh (@Pinky_Balboa) November 30, 2020
People keep saying "they shouldn't be twerking! they have no couth!" But… it was one party… and… he yelled like a would-be-Jack-and-Jill dad at the entire restaurant full of paying customers who were stuck listening to that loud ass music over their lamb chops…
— W.E.B. Dubullshit (@papayathebee) November 30, 2020
The True Kitchen & Kocktails owner said “I want men to respect themselves and how can I do that when ladies are in here twerking”
We not talking about that statement enough for me.
— el malo (@LouisXXIV) November 30, 2020
If y’all wanna talk about being respectable;
1. No man should ever address women like that
2. Nobody should address paying customers like that
3. If this is a family place why is throw that ass in a circle being played?— Kay (@itsLaKayy) November 30, 2020
"I do it for our people and I do it for our culture"
*People arrive*
*Culture arrives*
"Get the fuck out my restaurant" https://t.co/8mXzqVzMMw
— Q. Anthony (@andraydomise) November 30, 2020
what. the. fuck. is. this.
shit is ridiculous. and i promise if these were nonblack women his “approach” would’ve been maaaaad different. he did this because he don’t think black women deserve the very respect he said he was trying to cultivate. bullshit. https://t.co/uAnSp79cJu
— #PettyPendergrass (@ashoncrawley) November 30, 2020
While many spoke passionately about how Kelley's speech was rooted in misogynoir, dozens of people used the opportunities to simply clown the restaurant owner for looking ridiculous and for spending hours after the incident going after commenters online.
“I recommend the Talented Tenth Tuna Tartare and our famous $25 Mediocre Chicken and Waffles!”
— G.D. (@GeeDee215) November 30, 2020
Next week at True Kitchen pic.twitter.com/p8mk7wlm2J
— Hot Girl Mac (@liishaMAC) November 30, 2020
Bruh really stormed out dressed like Kim Possible with a DJ blasting over the chorus of growling stomachs to cuss at the people waiting hours for his overpriced food and terrible service? Ok it's not just celebs on self-destruct mode
— .gif Goddess (@LexDirects_) November 30, 2020
But tell me why “No Body Suits” has me WEEPING pic.twitter.com/R7NJteAx20
— Saint Laurent Debutante (@CaIiKapowski) November 30, 2020
me in True Kitchen restaurant off 2 drinks & waiting for my food pic.twitter.com/3GFBRWwGQk
— K ! KASH ???? +** (@1KKASH) November 30, 2020
The owner of True Kitchen got up, had the DJ cut the music and said “I made this for black people but not Y’ALL kind of black.”
— Alexandria. (@alexrenee__) November 30, 2020
True Kitchen’s owner said the only nigga that can get loud and ghetto in here.. IS ME! Lol he said this is a high end restaurant, but imma yell at the top of my lungs because ONE table decided to twerk.
— ✨ (@texasTEE__) November 30, 2020
“Stay off the furniture” is one thing.
But the “Have some fucking respect for yourself, this is an establishment for decent Black people” vibe is a whole different tone and yall know it.
Twerking or not …
— NOT VAN JONES BUT VAN LATHAN (@VanLathan) November 30, 2020
This man is yelling, cursing, and slut-shaming Black women at his restaurant for twerking…but acting like he's much classier or "woke" than them.
How you "here for our culture" and "providing for my people" talking to these sisters like this? Sigh. pic.twitter.com/FOucYVp1mO
— Ernest Owens (@MrErnestOwens) November 30, 2020
Kelley and his staff made it worse by defending their actions and going after people online. Their Facebook, Instagram and Twitter feeds are full of them retweeting, liking or sharing comments in support of Kelley or ones that criticize the women at the restaurant for dancing.
I really search before I tweet my jokes and boom pic.twitter.com/BF7iKehIbD
— awkward connoisseur (@RaychJackson) November 30, 2020
A few people took time to defend the restaurant owner.
.@TrueKK_ is the bomb the owners have provided a nice and upscale atmosphere for all types of people. Take y’all ass to the club of you want to twerk. Why would you stand on the ppl furniture anyway. If y’all was at ocean prime, Ruth Chris, or nick & sams with that foolishness.
— De'fron Fobb (@coachfobb) November 30, 2020
In a post on Monday, Kelley doubled down on his offensive comments, explaining in a post that three separate tables had been "spoken to about twerking" but that he became enraged when one woman stood on the booth seats and twerked against the glass windows.
The owner of TRUE Kitchen + Kocktails on the viral video of him responding to twerking in his restaurant pic.twitter.com/QJx4NsJw6L
— philip lewis (@Phil_Lewis_) November 30, 2020
Kelley also defended the restaurant's decision to play dance music, saying that they play dance music that should only be enjoyed while sitting and eating.
"As for the music, we created TRUE for it to be a place music could be enjoyed while we sit and eat. No song played is excuse to stand on our furniture and do what this lady did," Kelley wrote. "There are places for this and TRUE is not one. As for my delivery, I can assure you I was a gentlemen earlier but my nice words weren't respected. TRUE will be for some and not all and this is ok."
Despite the backlash, dozens of people defended the restaurant for berating his customers.
yes she was wrong for twerking at the restaurant.. yes he was wrong for cursing at the entire restaurant.. and yes the music sets the tone for the atmosphere of the restaurant.. all of these things can be true
— Plant Based Mami ???????????? (@BlueStarr2) November 30, 2020
He looked from the back and was like i know these mfs aint twerking on my furniture again pic.twitter.com/1SttKrjkau
— YOU GO GLENN COCO (@krazziK09) November 30, 2020
We really have 0 accountability as a community. We don’t want to be responsible for nothing we do. Blaming the music is wild to me. I get music can make u want to dance. But to try to justify standing up twerking on furniture in a restaurant cuz ur song playing? Man Foh
— Coach (@vettepassby35) November 30, 2020
I don’t see anything wrong with what he said. Everyday I’m seeing that people hate being corrected & they hate boundaries. Y’all gotta respect the fact that isn’t the time or place to be twerking on a table regardless of what’s being played. Have a good time & have self control.
— Brook w/ no E (@MayorBrookDavis) November 30, 2020
It’s really not that complicated. People shouldn’t be standing on restaurant furniture twerking, but also you as an owner should not be speaking to your entire clientele that way. They need to fix their identity/theme. You cannot rant about decorum, while displaying none.
— ????????L E A???????? (@_MissLeandra) November 30, 2020
I agree. Somethings you really shouldn’t have to adress with adults. I feel he should change the vibe all together. Maybe just play jazz over the intercome like the basic restaurant does. It would irritate me if im eating and someone is doing that next to me.
— Sheri Holley (@SheriHolleyInv) November 30, 2020
The outrage overshadowed the deeper point that many online made about how some aren't taking the COVID-19 pandemic seriously enough.
One in every 900 Black ppl in the US have died of COVID in less than a year and ppl still lacing up their brunch boots and risking death to eat mediocre fried chicken and drink patron slushees in a room full of strangers. https://t.co/hlBzOfDgiS
— Bath & Bella Works ???????????? (@brownandbella) November 30, 2020
According to Dallas Eater, Kelley opened the restaurant on August 21. In a statement to the news outlet, he said he was interested in creating a Black-owned restaurant in downtown Dallas built for Black people.
“It became apparent that Dallas deserves a Black-owned restaurant in the Central Business District. Not only do Black lives matter, but so do Black businesses,” he said.
The news outlet noted that Kelley is also facing backlash because he has at times marketed the establishment as a nightclub. On the restaurant's webpage for an upcoming New Year's Eve event, they specifically call themselves a "nightclub" and are offering tickets for as much as $10,000.
Kelley is facing a lawsuit from his business partner at another restaurant in Dallas, with Taste Bar and Kitchen chef Don Bowie saying Kelley outright stole money and misused funding, according to Dallas Eater.