EmpowerHer speaker Feminista Jones pushes the button on purpose, celebrating your body and sexual freedom

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| May 06 2016,

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On Saturday, May 21st, we’re hosting our inaugural conference about how creativity and technology are changing our daily lives, from our hobbies to our work. Will you be joining us? Tickets here(Use code blavityfam for a discounted price!) By now, you've probably read about and/or heard about the phenomenon that is Feminista Jones. A sex positive feminist, Feminista Jones dishes up her daily dose of truth via Twitter and her website.  She also teaches us how to love our bodies and enjoy sexual freedom in her spicy novel Push The Button. When she agreed to speak at our EmpowerHer conference, we knew she would bring that raw, gut-wrenching truth with a side of sexual revelation that we are all in need of. I had the pleasure of chatting with her about finding your truth, being "dickmatized," why hoes don't exist and loving your body. Here's what she had to say:
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On accepting and living in your truth

FJ: "You have to stop caring what other people say. It's not that you don't value the positive contributions or the positive opinions or that you shouldn't be open to constructive criticism. Those things are a part of life and you should embrace those things. But most of us allow commentary from people who really don't matter or affect any significant part of our life, and it affects us to the point of self-doubt. If it's coming from family or friends, I recommend therapy (if you can afford it), counseling or spiritual guidance
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On finding your purpose

forgetlose sightYou have to remember that it's ok to be you when these wild strangers think that they have a claim on you. Look at yourself and see what your passion is, what issues matter most to you, what impact you want to have on the world and what you're passionate about.
Pay more attention to finding your purpose and discovering your passion and less time seeking approval and trying to be liked or fitting into relationships
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On being 'dickmatized'

"Women are taught to default to the standard expectation that in relationships they are expected to carry the emotional burden and be the emotionally responsible one. They are expected to forgive him and give him another chance. They are basically taught that men are going to be crap and that they just have to learn how to adjust to that. They start to blame themselves for being in these toxic relationships because society blames them. If a man cheats, it's the woman's fault that he cheated. Why couldn't she keep her man? Women look for other reasons because they kind of start to blame themselves for staying. So they blame dick. You can't blame your choices or the way that you're feeling or your natural responses or maybe your confusion on something so patriarchal. What's your worth when you're saying your entire way of thinking and every action and every decision that you made in this time is because of a dick. You have to believe that you are worth more than that. At the very least, if you're holding up a dick and holding up you, you have to believe that you are more valuable than that."
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Why 'hoes' don't exist

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In Push The Button, the main character owns her sexual freedom and is not afraid to please herself or her partner.

Feminista tells us how to celebrate our bodies and embrace sexual freedom:

Become comfortable being uncomfortable.
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  1. No one is going to live your life but you. Don't choose the path of unhappiness.
  2. It's ok to explore your body sexually and go beyond traditional narratives.
  3. Don't be afraid to ask for help and cultivate a circle of women who will be there for you.
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Push the Button
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For those of us desperately waiting for another book in the 'Push the Button' series, she's working on it and hopefully it will be out by the end of the summer. Whoop, whoop!
Will you be joining us at EmpowerHer? Tickets here. (Use code blavityfam for a discounted price!)

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