People came out in droves to support and share birthday messages for a Twitter user named Jacki, who tweeted that they were being misgendered by their family.
“Hey so.. it’s my bday and I’ve been getting deadnamed and misgendered by family all day. So if some cool peeps could tell me happy birthday with my chosen name ‘Jacki’ that would be awesome,” Jacki wrote on Thursday.
Jacki said the reaction was overwhelming, as thousands of followers and complete strangers showed up in their mentions, wishing them a happy birthday and sending a few kind words to lift their spirits.
“I posted the tweet only expecting to get a few replies telling me happy birthday. It started out slow at first, but suddenly took off. I was flooded with supportive messages and replies all day and I’m still getting more. People were sending me videos singing my name and playing happy birthday on various instruments,” they told Blavity.
Twitter user Blake Tobey responded to Jacki’s tweet saying “happiest of birthdays” with a video saying his preferred name.
Happiest of birthdays from us to you, Jacki! We wanted to add a video so you could see and hear your name 🙂 pic.twitter.com/xn7OjAJaY2
— blake tobey 🌱 (@BlakeTobey) March 11, 2022
One person sang Jacki a special song they’d created for them.
Happy birthday from Canada, Jacki Eli! I made up a song and sang it to you from my bathroom floor 😂 hope it was a good day!!! pic.twitter.com/NAINncF3o9
— Eliot Newton (they/them) (@genderbandit) March 11, 2022
Well damn Jacki, I can't control your family!! YOU HAVE AN AMAZING DAY, DON'T HEAR THAT NONSENSE. You are GREAT! Happy Birthday Jacki 🎉🎉🎉🎂 eat an extra piece of cake for me😝 https://t.co/AA2U1ctW7b
— Ashes to Ashes🔥 (@WickedWaldgeist) March 11, 2022
For some, the interaction reminded people of the good others can bring to each other.
This thread reminds me it’s so many good people in this world 🥺 https://t.co/KfnGdRPP8Z
— Ms. Fat Booty (@yarealmom) March 11, 2022
Happy birthday Jacki! I would love to tell you they’ll get better at not doing this. But I can’t. Instead I’ll tell you that real family is who you choose. They’ll love you for you. #trans #family https://t.co/oAc9u9aDHw
— Samantha Pond on OF (@Sammie54361) March 11, 2022
Happy late birthday from one ‘Jacki’ to another; bear it with pride and keep your chin up. Remember to let these hurtful things bounce off the armor of who you are, they will never define you https://t.co/Ey8hVOFXFO
— Jacki (@jackicorinne) March 11, 2022
Jacki told Blavity that the support has been “unreal.”
“I feel so seen and loved by my online community,” they added.
They also shared that the engagement on their page has brought attention to LGBTQ+ crowdfunders.
“People inspired by my tweet have donated to other lgbtqia folks in need. Knowing that I’m also helping my community while they help me is the best birthday gift of all!” they said.