There's something about the Smith family that has always exuded "goals." Their aesthetics, the marriage between Jada and Will Smith, the witnessing of Jaden and Willow Smith's growth give black people an endearing view of a powerful and relatable black family.
Even with the knowledge of Will Smith's oldest son, Trey, from his first marriage with ex-wife, Sheree Fletcher, it was still nearly impossible to see this now complex relationship as something to frown upon. For a lot of other fans, there has always been so much beauty in this blended black family.
Recently on Jada Pinkett-Smith's new Facebook series, "Red Table Talk," she unearthed the history of deep-rooted issues between herself and her husband's first wife. Realistically, we all know that celebrities aren't perfect, but there is something extremely striking about knowing exactly what went down between these two women. Fortunately, this powerful dialogue, a necessary exchange between two black women, made me appreciate this Smith's blended family even more.
Let me just say, there's nothing sugar-coated about this first episode, titled "Motherhood." It shows that these women are real and their problems were real. But more importantly, it shows their growth, and that the love and respect they share is real. Additionally, it highlights how effective it can be to tackle personal issues directly.
The "Girls Trip" actress speaks on how she tried to focus so much on her own healing by working on Trey that she wound up missing out on what could have been the most paramount time in his life to bond.
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While the focus of the episode was black motherhood, there's so much I could relate to as a young black man. "Red Table Talk" is a show that offers something for everyone.
When it comes to being forward-thinking, we're often preventing ourselves from living in the moment, and it isn't always easy — if at all possible — to reconcile with ourselves or anyone else to make up for time lost.
There's also no good in masking our issues, as they only grow the longer we leave them unattended. We don't realize how much of our buried pasts will claw their way into our present lives, which is why healing and reconciliation are necessary. This important life lesson was taught to me by black women.
Accountability is also necessary. Hearing Fletcher and Smith speak on where they may have gone wrong and then apologize to each other was amazing to witness. While pain is usually inflicted upon us, it is critical to look at our issues and ourselves to see how, if in any way, we've contributed to that pain. We also have to know to show our apologies genuinely and know that it goes beyond just saying the words: "I'm sorry".
When we learn to humanize the public figures we idolize, it creates a better and much more enriching experience. I even challenge readers to start an open dialogue in the way Smith has with her show. "Red Table Talk" has so far solidified for me how important it is to love responsibly and think critically for the betterment of myself and loved ones. Everyone should watch.