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Ayesha Curry can't wipe the crack of her behind without becoming a headline.

For those of you who have been living under a rock for the past two weeks, Ayesha Curry made headlines again for an opinion she gave on an episode of Red Table Talk. Red Table Talk is a show on Facebook hosted by the one and only Jada Pinkett Smith. Pinkett Smith invites guests to her home — or in this case, goes to them — to let their hair down and have honest talks about whatever is up for discussion.

From the clips that I've seen on the internet, Ayesha briefly discussed how it feels to not receive male attention in the way that her superstar husband, Steph Curry, receives female attention. She went a little into how it's an insecurity for her that sometimes rears its ugly head, especially when women from all walks of life throw themselves at her mate.

Now I'll be honest, I haven't watched the full video because I have better things to do with my time, but the Curry Hater Brigade came out in full force. And after reading some of the conversations I've seen on Twitter, I honestly feel like the majority of them didn't like her to begin with, making her Red Table Talk interview the perfect time to sharpen their claws. It seems like no matter what Ayesha says, a certain crowd always finds a problem with it, assaulting everyone with think pieces about it — unintentionally like this one.

While the internet has started to become a place of outrage, reactions and cancel culture, at what point do we start scaling things back and start examining the way we view those who are in the spotlight?

Why are we, as non-famous people, allowed to be vulnerable, but celebrities such as Ayesha aren't granted that same freedom? Why is it OK to demonize her natural feelings as a young wife and mom of three children when a lot of us can't even imagine what it's like to be in her shoes? Y'all keep your feet on her neck at all times because, maybe subconsciously, you see her as the embodiment of people or opinions who have hurt you in their past — and you want your revenge. You want your turn to speak up because you couldn't speak up during your own traumatic events. That's not fair to Ayesha.

She doesn't know y'all and it's not fair to place any of your possible burdens and traumas on her shoulders, to be the public whipping post for all of the sins committed against you — as if she doesn't have burdens and traumas of her own she's working through.

Has Ayesha said questionable things in the past? Yes, and so have you. We're experiencing her growth in real time, and I think we should give her some grace. As you get older, your opinions and core values (sometimes) change and we can't fault her for trying to verbalize this in her own way. That's her truth and we either have to accept it or keep it pushing.

Shanygnec

Writing since May 2019 · 1 story contributed