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I know It's very controversial when it comes to focusing on Black women’s necessities, but we must stand on the truth and only the truth. Coming from someone who was married, I was called to crush this topic; I have all the gems. My story was not cute at all. It was ugly, but It ended in God's grace.

All women deserve love without suffering. Indeed that is true, especially for Black women who have been a target. We have suffered a lot. The great news is that it's never too late to rekindle your self-worth and rise up. Relationship trauma is real; it's so real. But it doesn't have to be your future! Relationship discernment is needed in this new season of your life.

Back in April 2020, I shared my story on Twitter because I knew it would help so many women who were dealing with the same thing on a smaller scale than me. I was married for two and a half years, and I am so grateful that I left the marriage on my first attempt. It never takes me long to realize certain people and situations are not for me, but was blinded by the vacations and hurting behind closed doors.

Black women shouldn't have to suffer behind closed doors when it's a whole world in front of us. Sharing your story can set you free from self-blame and self-shame. When we lose people, we should celebrate the fact that people who were sent to destroy us can only push us on our path to pursue our purpose. It's never personal, it's purpose.

My ex-husband confessed that he cheated throughout our marriage in another state for about two years. He ended up making two kids behind my back. I know you're wondering why he decided to tell me. Conviction is why — and conviction will eat you alive. He admitted that he allowed the devil to use him, but that sounded like a personal problem to me. You can read more about my story by heading over to my pinned tweet on Twitter.

Please teach your daughters that loyalty doesn't mean taking unlimited pain from a man. Dear Black women, please stop riding until the wheels fall off. What happens when you're stuck trying to fix a flat that's unfixable? You must tell yourself when it's time to clear out unnecessary inventory in your life. I want more for Black women. I really do.

Tianna Jenkins

Writing since February 2022 · 1 story contributed