During the holidays you may find every street corner decked with festive lights, and bright red bows. As the cold air nips at the tip of your nose, and the classic Christmas ballads fill your ears, amongst all the holiday flair your gaze may wander. Your eyes jump from place to place, the carols, the glee filled laughter, the ugly sweaters, but in the corner lurks two hands, swinging back and forth with fingers intertwined. They skip across the crystally roads without a care for the cars shining their lights and honking their horns. Their sights remain fixated on each other, as if they’ve created a serene paradise that only exists when they’re together, everything else around them seemingly ceases to matter. As they pass by, you gape with awe and longing for a taste of a holiday romance. But, why not focus on having one with yourself as opposed to looking elsewhere for that lovey dovey stimulation.

Yes, the romantic Christmas movies paint a beautiful mural depicting an idealistic, carefree, cheerful relationship characterized by snowball fights and tandemly building gingerbread houses. What happens when their company falls short or isn’t there to begin with? How do you abstain from wallowing in your solitude? I’d start by stopping the consumption of media that stirs thoughts or emotion geared toward being in a relationship or wanting for one. Then I would embrace being by yourself, not making it your entire personality, but don’t be afraid to venture out and engage in these activities typically done by couples alone. Lastly, I’d spend more time with friends and family, and if they’re not available, mingle! Find someone who you click with and enjoy. In conclusion find other ways to have a fun holiday. A relationship doesn’t have to be the be all and end all. 

Someone may not be fluttering their eyes at you or kissing you under a mistletoe this Christmas, but there are a myriad of ways to maximize your holiday season while single. You may come across a song, movie. Or maybe a tangible example of the coveted “Christmas couple.” But don’t allow that to discourage you. Hope these tips help those who may be in this situation this year. Are you single this Christmas season?

Zada Luby is a first-year student at Gwinnett Technical college, she’s a nursing major who loves art, nature, and helping her community grow. Follow her interests and more here.