More often than not, women are born and bred to grow in, when from an early age men learn to aggressively grow out. Where a man is meant to be large and strong, women long to be as petite and thin as their bodies will allow. Men are rarely silenced, while women are constantly told they’re better seen than heard. Before we’ve even become women, we are taught to make the space we occupy as small and insignificant as possible. We are taught to be invisible
Like many women, I’ve spent most of my life attempting to shrink myself into society. As one of the tallest girls in my 5th-grade class, I subconsciously wished I were just a little shorter. At 14, my baby fat had evolved into something not so cute and lot more crippling. It wasn’t until nearly my last year of university that I realized that the abundance of white frat boys walking down Greek row should be yielding to me
Recently while out at a bar on St. Patrick’s Day, the politics of space suddenly hit me for possibly the first time since I moved back home. As I reached the bar for the second time that night, I ran into a girl I vaguely remembered from high school. Seeing as though we weren’t ever really acquaintances, no such acknowledgment was made, but in suburban Maryland, a local face never goes unnoticed. I had previously asked her to graciously set down my empty drink on the bar for me, and now that I was back for a refill, she generously offered to move away from her friends to create space so I could order. I humbly thanked her but explained that even though she offered, women should never have to go out of their way to move for anyone, seeing as we do it far too often. Although I can admit the inebriated unforgivingly feminist part of my brain might have been kicking in, during an in-depth catch up with a friend over lunch the other day, I began to think about the sentiment of my somewhat drunken approach
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"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt'there's absolutely no space limit on life.