I’m learning that the older I get, the better I get. Bold statement, right? It’s true, though. As I think about my past and how I’ve grown as a person and a woman, I’m surprised to see the person I’ve become. It’s so different than how I used to be .
I can confidently say I love the woman I have become and continue to grow to be. I’ve found my voice and I’m not afraid to use it. For instance, I was once a real introvert and wouldn’t dare be caught in the center of attention or speaking in front of more than five people. Fast forward to the present, and I’m a full-time yoga teacher. Sometimes I stand in front of a room full of people and I can’t believe that it’s me, that I’m leading the class. I’ve definitely come a long way.
I also used to be a people pleaser that would put my wants on the back burner because I was afraid of disappointing others and actually cared about what people thought. Today, I can care less about pleasing others and what they say about me or what I’m doing. I know the difference between accepting constructive criticism and living for acceptance through others. This relates to my career and professional life as well, and I’ve learned to not be afraid to explore and do what I love versus what’s expected of me.
The older I get, the more I focus on owning who I am. I live life according to my rules and boundaries that I set. I dress how I feel and not the way society says I should. I’ve learned to love the body that God gave me and to treat it like the gift that it is. It was also important to learn more about who I am, what it is that I want, and being comfortable with the results. I realized that I can fix and work on whatever I can, but I need to love myself and enjoy every step of the journey.
Womanhood has helped me to embrace my sexuality by accepting that it’s okay to be, feel and exude sexiness. I’m comfortable with exploring my body in sexual and non-sexual ways. When I was younger, I would’ve never owned Ben Wa Balls, yoni eggs, a menstrual cup or even be comfortable enough to speak those words. This all sounds trivial, but society frowns on women for this, especially young girls, and it surely wasn’t discussed in my household as a kid. I had to learn about these things on my own as I grew up and to reverse the thinking that anything outside of pads and tampons were ‘bad’ and not to be discussed.
So what has all of this ultimately taught me? To continue to look forward to the future, because I learn something new each year I grow older. I know there is so much more to come, and I just want to soak up as much as I can along the way.
Let me know in the comments, how does womanhood get better for you?
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