You use chivalry as a way to show off how moms raised you right. You open all the doors and walk on the right side of the street. However, this behavior is also a low-key, weird flex attempt that you use to showcase and establish your male dominance as well as stroke your own ego. Ew — I'd really rather take the check, thanks.

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If you've answered “yes” to more than two items on this list, you may be guilty of committing misogynoir — but at least you now have a term to really identify your truth. Watch your words. Consider self-enlightenment through the words of Bell Hooks' Ain't I A Woman: Black Women and Feminism, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's We Should All Be Feminists or Audre Lorde's Sister Outsider. Also, maybe think about going into hiding as you check yourself on the same things that you’ve probably accused white men of doing. When you know what's good, step out and act like it.

Dr. Moya Bailey

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