On February 8th, Black Lives Matter activist MarShawn McCarrel wrote his final Facebook message: “My demons won today. I’m sorry.” The 23 year old activist took his own life on the steps of the Ohio Statehouse.

Known for his drive and poetic words it was shocking to his colleagues and supporters that suicide was what McCarrel found to be the only solution to his personal demons. Black Lives Matter activists and others joining in the fight against racial injustice are on the front lines putting themselves in harm’s way and opening up the door to even more hate from those on the other side of the fence. The daily fight as a person of color in America is a big enough battle to stress all of us out. But when you add the stresses of the movement and fighting for the cause, does that give you an extra mountain to get over, burden to carry and river to cross?

Talking about our burdens and our mountains to anyone other than our closest friends and family is out of the question. For some, even confiding in people about these issues is out of the question. So when do we ever get to put the burden down and have peace? When do we get to silence our personal demons before our demons get the best of us? Therapy seems to be one of the answers to those questions but not one that is widely accepted in the black community. In the black community there are an array of reasons as to why therapy isnt for us:

Jesus will fix it
Therapy is too expensive
Therapy is that white people stuff
No one in my family ever needed therapy so neither do I
I can deal with it on my own

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Unfortunately, those types of responses to therapy have left us in a weird space of needing a savior and not having the strength to reach out to one that’s readily available. Rashida Davison spoke out about how two years of activism had taken a personal toll on her. She had trouble sleeping, bouts of anxiety, and feelings of despair. “This is really getting to us.” Davison told the Washington Post. Some of the most prominent, powerful, and prolific men and women we are seeing on the front lines of the movement are fighting a war on the outside and the inside. Other activist have posted phone numbers for suicide prevention hotlines after seeing the growing number of depressed and stressed out activist.

American Psychological Association released a report that indicated that perceptions of racism are inversely associated with the psychological well being and positively associated with psychological distress. Discrimination and racism are generally associated with poor health status and that association was the strongest in the case of mental health compared to physical health. In other words we feel the stress of racism and the movement in our minds and not our bodies. The study went on to say that Black psychological responses to racism are similar to responses to trauma. This trauma taking the form of depression, anxiety, and insecurity. Black activist are commonly engaged in the discussion of black death and the fight over black lives, all the while experiencing racism personally on a daily basis. One black person dies every 4.5 hours because of suicide in the US. In the case of MarShawn, it’s no longer those we are fighting who are killing us, it’s the fight itself. We need help.

Groups on Facebook like No More Martyrs and Mental Fitness is the New Sexy along with organizations like the Black Mental Health Alliance, are starting the discussion and breaking down the barriers that keep us from seeking help. Whether you are an activist or just a black person in America trying to make it past the daily struggles of carrying your burden, you my beloved are not alone. Join me as I join in the discussion about Black Mental Health and add support to these groups. We are in this battle and discussion together.

Shortly after being diagnosed with endometriosis in 2011, I was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression. After three surgeries and botched attempts to feel whole again I texted my best friend my final goodbyes. She saved my life with three words, “You are enough.” Today I seek the care of a therapist against my religious family’s beliefs because even though my personal belief is Jesus can Fix It, I don’t want my personal demons to win.

So become a part of the discussion with me by doing the following:

Take a picture of yourself holding a sign that says “You are not alone! #blavityfam” and tag us in it on your Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram post. Show us that you stand with us as we support not just our brothers and sisters on the front lines but also all of our brothers and sisters as a whole. Here’s mine:

You are not Alone! #blavityfam let’s stand together to tackle black mental health pic.twitter.com/KqUo9T0JYu

— LaVita Tuff, J.D. (@lavitatuff) February 19, 2016

We’re all going to be alright.

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