The other side of Badu's comments — Why I think self-awareness is revolutionary
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I hear her speaking to self-awareness in a similar way that some believe spirits whisper in our ears when precautions are in order to ward off dangers we might not see with our eyes. She is asking our girl children to become aware of the world they live in, a world where men are sexually attracted to the female body by nature but are sometimes misguided by their lack of personal awareness. She is encouraging our girl children to have awareness of their bodies and know they might attract attention they don't want
I think Badu speaks to self awareness our girls must have in order to embody a sense of self-respect, something that then elicits respect from others and can potentially ward off bulls*%t. It’s called energetic shielding
Badu then took the time to clarify her position: Let's be clear!
- Awareness requires us as a society to be responsible for our choices. It requires us to become sensitive to the reality of the collective ignorance and immaturity we hold in regards to the body and sexuality.
- Awareness requires us to be conscientious about the reality of society’s ignorance of the sanctity of sex and the human body.
- Awareness requires we be sensitive to the reality that when these conversations present themselves there is an inclination to immediately position men as predators and women as victims. The harsh reality is that boys and men experience sexual violence too. Women commit acts of sexual violence too.
What is hard for me to watch over and over is the blame game. Any time women are asked to be a tad bit accountable on any level there are those who are super triggered, ready to call foul and make accusations of slut-shaming. Can we stop this already? As E. Badu asked, "Can we not be MODEST without feeling SUPPRESSED?"Although there are many good reasons and far too many examples of sexual violence against women to support the sensitivity, knee-jerk reactions that push conversations way out of context are counter productive. I’m not sure how any real strides can be made if there's no tolerance for conversations to be had that call for self-awareness without efforts being labeled as victim-blaming or slut-shaming. I’d like to think we can do better, that we are much more advanced in our ability to listen and respond rather than impulsively react. Are we seeking to make real change or waddle in the problems?
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