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Sitting with tissues, I’ve fallen down the YouTube rabbit hole watching old clips of Living Single and I keep crying. It’s comedy I know, but damn!
Growing up I loved watching this show. Being the oh so mature 9-year-old, I laughed not knowing why, and like many others, I watched for 5 years, witnessed 6 beautiful rich hues of chocolate, live, work, laugh, and love together.
Like seeing your favorite Aunt, Uncle, Cousin and ’Em share the ups and downs in relationships/friendships and balance careers. Learning, laughing and crying with them. Catching re-runs on various channels, in my 30’s now I understand. The days I can’t find it, I find old clips on YouTube and cry like an over emotional lady!
“Cry”? You may ask. Well, I’m smart, funny, successful, and my black girl magic is overflowing. However, I find myself asking the question, “WHY am I STILL living single”?
Pretty sure I’m not alone in asking this question, we all have met great men, exchanged some words either in person or via social media, shared laughter and few LMAO texts. However it never fails, we receive a compliment that strokes our ego and immediately we get the infamous question followed by made up conclusions.
Well, maybe, it’s because I’m PLUS SIZE. No honey not THICK, or a video vixen, nor Kim K, Amber Rose, BlacChyna snatched waist, big ole booty girl plus size! Meaning cellulite, dimples, and hell yes big bellies. Love to eat WANGS, yes I said it WANGS with extra blue cheese.
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Living single is not bad nor is being PLUS, it’s actually fabulous. But for those men who think that can get over on plus size ladies, here are 3 myths and a possible to make you rethink.
1. WE'RE INSECURE
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Not the popular HBO series either, the preconceived notion that we aren’t confident within ourselves, we will take any ole man, treated any ole way while smiling, cause WHO would love us.
-Who would love us? Hmm excuse me; a good number of us are confident. Men approach us with the mentality that we cannot get a man thus we will settle. WRONG, the “who” is ME and I’m pretty awesome!
2. WE'RE EAGER TO PLEASE
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Presumed desperate so we overcompensate in areas such as cooking and cleaning, doing anything to keep a man.
– Realize that we treat you the same way we expect, you know a decent human being. Don’t catch these hands!
3. WE LIKE BIGGER MEN
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As if being succulent, is code for we enjoy dating bigger men.
4. SEX = BETTER
Hearing that we are the wettest, softest, nastiest top notch freaky women ever.
-Hmm well, this myth may be true, at least for me it is.
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Living Single with a plus isn’t a curse, it’s a way to reflect on past relationships and allow one to realize that your special person is coming. Your size won’t be an issue, these myths aren’t true and you will not succumb to lies. Woo Woo Sinclair & tool belt carrying Overton can have marital bliss. Slick talking attorney Maxine Shaw & sing-his-suave-ass off Kyle have a love child. Bourgeois wig-loving Regine finds a millionaire fiancé while Khadijah & Scooter have a love so strong that it made being on and off again seemed flavorful. Well, baby, your time and my time are coming!
So I had to climb out the rabbit hole, gathering the tissues, remembering the tune that made me wish I was a 90’s girl, you know it, so sing it loudly with me “Keep your head up, what? Keep your head up, that’s right. Whenever this life gets tough, you gotta fight. With my homegirls standing to my left and my right. True blue, it’s tight like glue”. You are Living Single with a Plus!
