As Sonya Renee Taylor so eloquently explains in this video, “the system of policing is the system of patriarchy” and the same energy that felt entitled to the lives of George Floyd, Rayshard Brooks, Breonna Taylor and Tony McDade is the same energy that leads Black men to feel entitled to Black womxn’s bodies and lives."
White supremacy, the system that was built (in part) to oppress Black people, is the overseer of patriarchy, misogyny and transphobia. The energy that we put into those systems (intentional or otherwise) feed the same white supremist monster that we’re fighting today, a monster that our ancestors and elders fought for generations before us.
Audre Lorde said, “the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house.”
Iyanna Dior was beaten (to the point of fearing death) by a group of Black men at a convenience store over a car accident.
Oluwatoyin (Toyin) Salau tweeted about being sexually assaulted, went missing for days, then turned up dead — all in the midst of her fighting for our lives on the front lines of the current uprising. The Black man who confessed to her murder was arrested for the assault of another woman just in May.
Dominique Rem’mie Fells’ dismembered body was found in a river and the suspect is a Black man who is nowhere to be found, but had a cutting tool and blood in his house.
Riah Milton was gunned down during a robbery; two of her murders are Black men.
A group of Black men (some wearing “Black Lives Matter” t-shirts) threw a Black woman in a dumpster while laughing and recording as “she cried and laid there in defeat.”
Men wearing “Black Lives Matter” shirts threw a black woman in the dumpster and stood around laughing and recording while she cried and laid there in defeat.— Yanncé (@uhnopenottoday) June 16, 2020
Even after all of this, J. Cole released a song asking to be coddled through ignorance and tone policing Noname simply because she validly criticized “top selling rappers” profiting from Black plight while staying silent during this uprising. Haven’t we been chanting silence is violence at these protests?
In addition to the daily occurrences of touching womxn’s bodies without their permission, referring to them as bitches and hoes, and catcalling, every single one of the recent acts listed above are acts of violence Black men commit against Black womxn. Acts rooted in the master’s tools of patriarchy, misogyny and transphobia.
In this video, Sonya Renee Taylor paraphrases a statement from Fred Hampton: “Without a political analysis (and) internal shift of the way in which systems of oppression live in you, you will dismantle one and then you will step into the position of the oppressor. You will become that which it was that you attempted to dismantle.”
Black men, if we do not destroy the master’s tools within ourselves, we are forcing Black womxn and ourselves onto a never ending treadmill of oppression while acting in service of the oppressor.
We have to do better. We have to decolonize our minds. We have a responsibility to recognize the toxicity that we have been socialized and raised to believe, especially the things that Black womxn have been telling us are harmful to them. Then we must do the work to unlearn those things. We have to let go of ego, actively listen to womxn and learn to empathize with their truth.
Your “Black Lives Matter” has to account for more than the heterosexual cisgender men you identify with. It has to be intersectional and account for all Black lives. It has to stand for Black womxn (cisgender and transgender) and non-binary Black folx. It has to denounce the patriarchy, misogyny and transphobia that dehumanizes, oppresses, erases and harms them.
To stop harming, harassing and killing is the absolute least that we can do to honor, support and protect the womxn who give us life, who raise us, who teach us, who fight for us and who protect us. We’ve been taking and subjugating for too long, it’s past time to give back.
I’m struggling to find more words for all that I am trying to say, but some other folx captured it perfectly, so I’m amplifying those voices here and placing resources for Black men to start or continue this work below.
If you’re not fighting for ALL Black People and to dismantle ALL power structures then it’s useless. We want equity not supremacy with a Black cishet mans face on it https://t.co/nOSVCEGJyT— Megan Thee Socialist (@Namastaywoke) June 26, 2020
I know Black men have a really hard time understanding this because of the fact that they experience so much violence and oppression, but they really do show up in relation to Black women like white people show up in relation to Black people and it is infuriating.— Charity (@charitychiffon) June 17, 2020
its always amazed me how “i have a boyfriend” is the strongest card to get guys to stop harassing me bc they’ll respect a man they don’t know before they respect the woman in front of them— Shahd (@ShahdBatal) June 17, 2020
protect our black women. please.
not because theyre someones mother or sister or wife but because they are someone, independently.— SPRING HOODIES TAKE 3-5 WEEKS AFTER MAY 22ND. ❤️ (@DemetriusHarmon) June 15, 2020
Y’all always tell women to “go to the police, not twitter”. Toyin called the police & they didn’t do shit. If she never posted on twitter, we would’ve never known about her.— arrest breonna taylor’s murderers (@purplecoils) June 15, 2020
The man arrested for Toyin’s murder was arrested for the assault of a woman just in May.
The fact a man can have a history of abuse against women & still be roaming free just goes to show there’s clearly something wrong w/ the system. & then people wonder why we don’t report.— Bria Celest (@55mmbae) June 15, 2020
A great place to research new vocabulary words. A free resource with articles, videos, photos and everything you need to build your knowledge.
Online resources on patriarchy and gender organized by a Black man.
A podcast where these topics have been discussed for years, featuring “two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics and pop culture over tea. Dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time.”
A brief but thorough explanation of things to consider, analyze and reflect on.