There's so much talk about alpha males and why you should get you one.

An alpha male seems ideal. He's the one that walks into the room, dominates and stands out. He's a risk taker, competitive and the type that goes all out for what he wants. People can't help but to notice him. His body language drips with confidence and he is a leader. He also positions himself for power moves, and is not really worried about what people think about him. 

Sounds amazing, right?

Why wouldn't you want that kind of man? He seems perfect. The type of man that leads in social and professional settings. He has to be able to lead in the home, right?

Well, let's take a look at some of the other types. Because there may be a reason why you aren't attracting alpha males. Because let's face it, not every woman is able to deal with an alpha male personality. And that's just truth right there. You may instead find that a gamma man is more your style.

I said it. That gamma man may really be what you want. 

Why don't we hear about the gamma man? When I looked it up, most described gamma as boring, run of the mill. The kind of guy who is wonderful, but not the type to readily be noticed in a room. He is the team player, but is also charismatic. He is the one who thinks for himself, is self-aware, and is confident in who he is. He is also able to balance his feminine nature (which is to receive and listen and nurture) as well as his masculine (lead, protect, hunt, action-based).

Just FYI, we all possess both masculine and feminine energy. 

So wait, why is it that the gamma dude is not discussed more?

He is basically the guy in the B crowd. He clearly sounds like the good guy that gets passed over because he may not be the life of the party—thumping his chest, calling attention to himself. Women are attracted to him, only after she sees him or maybe has a conversation with him. But that conversation has to happen in order for her to acknowledge how dope his really is. He does not need approval from others to make moves in his life. Gamma is just not an extreme type of nature. He is more even keel. 

Just for reference, so you can check the kind of guy you are dating, there are the beta and the omega males, as well.

Beta is more passive aggressive. He may hang with alpha males, making it easy to mistake him for alpha. He is not a leader, but talks it and fakes it enough that you may think he is. He is domineering, likes to insert his opinion, yet may be nervous socially. He is often resentful and argumentative and is not good at expressing his feelings, so he tends to project a lot.

Omega is the jerk, essentially. That dude that does not take responsibility for his actions, refuses to grow up, and may come across a bit socially awkward.

Looking at this, why is it that we are not more drawn to gamma men?

On the back end, alpha males tend to have more short-term relationships, unable to maintain long-term with one person. Gammas may do some of the same, and of course this is all dependent upon the person and their desires and belief systems. Gamma is a dominant personality, like the alpha male. He is just not as social, which is not necessarily a bad thing. He is a leader who marches to the beat of his own drum. He is the good guy who flies below the radar. Maybe it's time that the gamma men step up, be good with being gamma, and make sure that #GammaMenAreWinning. Maybe you should get you one. 

I love my alpha males. There is something sexy and intoxicating about them. But gamma men give me choices, and goodness knows, a woman like me appreciates choices in life.