"So I typed a text to a girl I used to see

Sayin’ that I chose this cutie pie with whom I wanna be

And I apologize if this message gets you down"

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Most people have often wondered why dating has been so difficult nowadays. What is actually making dating seem so exhausting? It’s the simple fact that most people who are on the dating scene, haven’t quite healed from their past relationships. Instead, they are carrying this cycle of hurt along with them in each interaction.

Then I CC’ed every girl that I’d see-see ‘round town

And hate to see y’all frown, but I’d rather see her smilin’

Wetness all around me, true, but I’m no island

Peninsula maybe

It makes no sense, I know crazy

Before we can fully commit to the next person, we really must take the time to heal ourselves. Believe me, it’s a process, but it’s worth it. Let's compare your inner healing to a physical injury. Say you cut yourself and your bleeding profusely. The first thing you do is apply pressure to the wound to stop the bleeding. If the cut is very deep, it might even require medical attention; in that case, you'd seek help. If it’s not that bad and you believe you can tend to the wound on your own, you’re going to take the necessary steps in order for it to heal. That means you’re cleaning the wound, putting whatever medication on it to speed up the recovery and also being cautious enough to not make the same mistake again.

Give up all this pussy cat that’s in my lap

No lookin’ back

Spaceships don’t come equipped with rear view mirrors

They dip as quick as they can

The atmosphere is now ripped

The same can be said about emotional healing after a long term relationship has ended. Unfortunately, breakups happen, and it’s no ones responsibility but your own to heal from it. Put enough pressure on yourself to dig deep and release the things that are no longer for you — the insecurities, the fear, the worry. If the emotional pain is too much for you to handle on your own, just like with a physical injury, seek professional help. It is an amazing feeling when you're able to talk out your issues with an unbiased professional. Don’t sleep on therapy! Sometimes speaking about what happened to you can be a form of release and is ultimately a part of the healing process. If you need to cry it out, by all means, let those tears fall.

I‘m so like a pimp, I’m glad it’s night

So the light from the sun

Would not burn me on my bum

When I shoot the moon

High jump the broom

The next thing you need to focus on is “cleaning” your emotional wounds. This means really tending to you. Have your spa days, take some mental health days off work, start writing out your feelings. Do what YOU need to do in order to cleanse yourself of that past relationship. If you're big into rituals, sage yourself, as well as your space. You can even Look into ritual baths and meditation. Read a good inspirational book about healing. Hell, even go for a run if you need to in order to burn off some steam. But by all means, take care of your mental, before trying to hop into something. Will Smith said that the pain might not be your fault, but the healing is your responsibility.

Like a preemie out the womb

My partner yellin’ “Too soon! Don’t do it!

Reconsider! Read some liter-ature on the subject

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Regardless of how old you are, you need to recover from your past. We have too many hurt people out here hurting people, and we wonder why so many marriages and relationships are failing. So before you decide you want to be committed, please unpack your baggage. It’s no one else's responsibility to take those bags off of you. It’s up to you to unpack them.

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So keep your heart fam, keep your heart — until you’ve healed!

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