Before Kourtney Jorge became #HurtBae she was, and still is, an aspiring model and Spelman alum who moved to NYC to pursue her dreams. But it appears that there were many more #HurtBae’s out there who could relate. If you’ve watched Jorge get personal during the emotional 6-minute video, you probably had more than a few questions during and after like, “ Why would anyone do this so publicly?” or “ “How could she deal with this guy?” You aren’t the only one. 

 #HurtBae answered a few more questions about her new found popularity, what she’s learned and of course, shared a little advice: 

B: What made you want to share your experience so publicly?

HB: Honestly, at the time, I didn’t think it would ever be viewed by many people at all. Our goal was to use it as a way for us to talk about our break up and for us to get closure.

B: Could you walk me through how wanting to talk became the video on Scene?

HB: We saw an online ad for The Scene and decided to answer it because we thought it could help us get closure and move on 

B: Did your experience change you?

HB:  If you mean the relationship with Leonard, yes, I think it changed me but in a way that any long-term serious relationship that ends in a hurtful way would change anyone.  I’m not bitter or anything like that, I just used it as a learning experience and I’ve moved on.

B: What would you say to someone who thought this was too public or too personal?

HB: We had no idea so many people would see it. We never expected The Scene would go viral; we were both just being honest. 

B: Was there a point during the video that you realized you deserved better?

HB:  The relationship had already run its course when our breakup was final and I’ve always known that there are other men out there. 

B: What do you think your story can teach other young women?

HB:  I hope that it will teach women AND men that being honest is important and also that there is value in talking. I also hope my experience can show women that just because you may be hurt in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t be strong and move on.

B: Do you still believe in monogamy?

HB: Yes, I think there are plenty men who are willing to commit to a relationship and be monogamous when the relationship reaches that point.

B: After the video caught fire, what else has changed?

HB: One thing I wasn’t prepared for was the dark side of social media with my Instagram account being hacked multiple times, people creating fake accounts and asking for money.  I don’t condone anyone asking for money using my name or my likeness. 

B: You were quoted saying that " knowing your worth" is important. How did you find that in your last relationship?

HB:  I believe in forgiveness – I forgave Leonard when we were together.  Women who are hurt in relationships are still strong women. At what point did you realize you deserved better? The relationship had already run its course when our breakup was final and I’ve always known that there are other men out there. 

B: Why do you think your story was important to share?

HB: Some of the emails I’ve gotten have been so moving and touching. People are telling me that they are glad that I shared my story and are even asking my advice. I think it’s important that we all know we aren’t alone.

A natural reaction to having to relive the moments that made you feel low in a relationship could make anyone bitter. Kourtney’s matter of fact “chill,” is just how many of us want to end a relationship (and with our good sense still intact). What's even better is that she is dating and that the video has surprisingly had little impact on that part of her life. 

If you had the chance, what would you ask #HurtBae?