I’ve always considered myself a pretty traditional woman. I had not long ago graduated college and was making headway in the scientific world, even earning some major publications under my belt. When my then-boyfriend proposed to me, I was thrilled and had all my ducks in a row — or so I thought.
“So, are you going to change your last name? What about all your publications?” a colleague asked during lunch.
I was honestly stumped.
Of course, I always felt that I wanted to take on my husband’s last name – for me, it was a no brainer. I had never once considered the effect it would have on the name and reputation I had built within the scientific community. Should I change my maiden name to middle? Or maybe I could hyphenate. But no, that would be way too long.
I found myself weighing all options:
· Change last name to husband’s name
· Keep maiden name
· Hyphenate
· Keep maiden name professionally but change it legally
· Make maiden name new middle name and take husband’s as last name
· Husband takes wife’s last name (rare)
We had our first child at the time prior to marriage, and then it clicked. As much as I loved my maiden name and the achievements behind it, I preferred having the same exact name as my future husband and child. Although at times it could be a huge headache, I quickly learned that there was no expiration date on my accomplishments and that they are completely transferable.
Engaged and married folks – have you had similar struggles? How have you handled it? Let us know in the comments!
