Last night, I was listening to The Roommates podcast. Listening to these Black mean speak made me realize that all black men aren't complete lost causes. But, it made me wonder to myself, "Why are you so cold towards Black men, sis?" I've always said that my heart will always belong to a black man, but lately, I've been dang near tempted to look elsewhere. Here's why:

Black women have been groomed to be bread winners, to be independent, to always have ambition. And if there is a plan A, you best believe there is a plan Z. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having these attributes, but somewhere down the line, it can become a problem for us. So, here are three things I had to reassess to let love in.

Ashlee Blaine

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