Issa has changed for the better. Molly has changed for the better. But their friendship has not evolved along with them.

Issa still sees Molly as the woman who slept with a married man, can’t keep a man and someone who’s nit-picky. She even still sees her as someone that is supposed to continue doing favors for her because that has been their relationship for however long. This is why you see her truly upset by Molly not helping her this particular time in their friendship.

Molly still see’s Issa as selfish, always needing favors and messy. She expected her event to be “homegirl-ish” and was surprised at how well the block party turned out. Not because she didn’t love her but because she saw her as who she once was. Even Kelly said she didn’t think Issa could do it. But this is a new Issa.

They are no longer the same people in their own lives that they once were, yet, they still perceive each other to be the same person and expect the same relationship between them. It’s really difficult to grow and change when you’re still around people that expect you to be and stay the same. It’s also difficult being a new person and still be seen as who you worked so hard to leave behind.

This is why their jabs hurt a little bit more than they did before. It’s why comments are taken more harshly and why they can’t just laugh it off anymore. Their friendship is stagnant and it doesn’t help that they are both passive aggressive. So their issues build up over time. (Open communication is where it’s at.)

I hope they are able to figure it out. I’ve always been an Issa + Molly stan. But if it doesn’t, that’s OK too, because sometimes when you grow, you outgrow old friendships. It’s a part of glowing and growing up.

Issa Dee

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