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As natural caregivers and givers of life, I must say women are one of the strongest beings to walk this earth. There’s something very special, yet mystical, about a woman’s persona. We have a way of accommodating, complimented with a selfless state of enduring. With all of these things in the forefront, how is it such a gray area in regards to the opposite sex and communication?
I’ll tell you why.
Women can be everything to everyone without fully expressing exactly what we need for ourselves. It should be self-explanatory, but it’s not. The miscommunication of what a woman wants and needs, and how a man responds to those desires, is so real. You can more than touch it; you can see it, statistically speaking.
Men and women co-exist within this playing field of love, obstacles, emotions, intentions and situationships. Most men are channeled in logic; most women react off of emotion. So where lies the happy medium? How can we somehow meet each other halfway? I think it’s pretty simple.
It all starts with a simple conversation about communication, but also filters through possible approaches to bring forth resolutions instead of mere confusion.
Women have a way of planning ahead. Can I see myself with you forever? How would our offspring look? And the list goes on. Initially, of course, there's a spark of attraction, whether it's physical, mental or spiritual. Something about this person raises your antennas and you automatically want to know more.
They say you don't truly know a person until you have lived with them. While this is true, there are other deciding factors to unveiling how someone truly feels about you — sacrifice and compromise. I believe these are the two denominators that make or break plenty of relationships.
During the honeymoon stage we learn about our partners quickly through their daily patterns. We subconsciously filter out what we should or shouldn't do, what triggers emotions and how to move within the tricky playing field of love. In the beginning, to keep the peace, we all let things slide. But later down the line, once a foundation is established, we learn to be more vocal and honest about specific things that concern us. This method of surfing around the honeymoon stage unscaved would appear to be inncocent and harmless, but actually it's misleading, to say the least.
Words Of Advice: Speak More And Show Even More
How you start a relationship will inadvertently affect how things will play out. Meaning it's best to put all the cards on the table and call it fair game; keeping in mind the games and tricks aren't healthy. Men and women have a way of omitting without considering the intentions behind it, so in retrospect it creates a dishonest gray area.
I once heard a very important statement coming from a male's perspective: "If you don't ask a specific question detailing exactly what you want to know, I will assume you don't want to know and I then have the option to omit."
True story, and you know what? How can you be mad at that?
At what point do we find ourselves accountable for how a scenario is played out, based on the results of our direct actions, or lack thereof? I'll wait.
The fact of the matter is relationships and what people take away from them is ever-changing. Don't over-analyze, don't assume, don't judge and, most importantly, don't settle. And if you happen to find someone who wants to grow with you, accept your flaws and toxic traits (with intentions to compromise) and supports you in any future endeavors without judgement, show them how much you appreciate them. No matter the argument or untimely circumstance, they should never have to question your love for them.
Lastly, do us all a favor in the name of dating and take your precious time before jumping out the window, allowing lust to steer your decisions. There's more than enough time for happily ever after. It's better to be safe than statistically sorry.
