Black women have turned to TikTok to share unforgettable stories about their relationships or marriages, highlighting the jaw-dropping situations they face with their significant others. Dallas realtor and former reality TV contestant Onyeka Ehie is the latest to share her story on the platform and faced backlash from other Black women over claims about her alleged scammer husband.
Onyeka Ehie’s relationship and her ex-husband’s alleged scams, explained
According to Chron, Ehie shared a 25-part series called “The Danish Deception” on her TikTok account, @onyekaehie, detailing the rise and fall of her three-year relationship with Martin Fredsgaard Andersen, a Danish man she met while traveling in 2022. The former couple gained social media fame by sharing their love story while maintaining a long-distance relationship, traveling the world together and honoring their respective cultures. Andersen is from Denmark, and Ehie is Nigerian American.
Those happy moments quickly turned into a tale of financial manipulation and deceit. On Nov. 15, Ehie detailed how they fell in love, met each other’s families and exchanged wedding vows. In Part 5 of the series, Ehie revealed that over the course of their relationship, she loaned Andersen more than $30,000, only to discover he struggled with a gambling addiction and had mismanaged funds from her family, friends, and acquaintances, including $300,000 in cryptocurrency.
“I never thought I would fall victim to something like this,” Ehie said in her most recent TikTok post, according to Black Enterprise. “I want to protect other people. This man is a professional international con artist, so he will not stop. I do not want to be complicit in him continuing to hurt other people. … I’m just happy that I can do my part to protect other people.”
‘The Danish Deception’ became a hot topic on social media
Her story has since circulated beyond TikTok, garnering conversations among users on Reddit and other social media platforms. She concluded the series, stating that her divorce from Anderson was official on Nov. 4.
She took TikTok users through a whirlwind of events, similar to Reesa Teesa’s 50-part series, “Who TF Did I Marry,” in 2024, which kept viewers on the edge of their seats. Teesa’s story drew nationwide attention, including appearances on daytime television and a television adaptation starring comedian and actor Natasha Rothwell.
For Ehie, the comments on her videos were a mixture of emotions from those who watched all 25 parts of the series. Some were happy she ended the relationship.
“As a therapist, I want to thank you for sharing your story with us. Financial exploitation within a relationship is considered a type of intimate partner violence, so I’m glad you have lots of support from your therapist, attorney, family, & friends. ❤️,” one user wrote in the series’ conclusion post.
Black women’s critique of Ehie’s scammer claims against ex-husband
Others criticized her, questioning the validity of her claims against her ex-husband and why she let the deception go on for so long.
“Babe, the gambling addiction was a lie, too. He was robbing Peter to pay Paul & gambling was a SMALL part of this & likely his way of getting OUT OF having to pay ppl back,” another said.
At one point in the storytime saga, some Black women pointed out that Ehie having a blonde-haired and blue-eyed man was her association with whiteness and being accepted by her white counterparts.
“I’m sure it gave you an ego boost when you came in with this tall, Danish white man… Now you’re feeling more accepted by your white friends,” one TikTok user said in one of the posts.
Some commenters even asked why she didn’t do her research about Anderson, especially when he told her he had royalty ties and was a top athlete.
“Hi Onyeka thank you for your story. Genuine question, what made you not google him when he said he was a royal and was in the Olympics?” one user questioned.
“Basically what I gathered is you yourself weren’t scammed, you simply gave that man everything he asked for 😭,” another wrote.
Despite the backlash, Ehie said she wants to warn other women about Anderson, gambling addiction, and also called out those who were victim-blaming her and other women who share similar stories about their experiences.